The forgiveness process dissipates that weight that is on you

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When you have an injury that you
ultimately try to forgive somebody for

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that injury is a great weight on you.

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And so the question is how
does one remove that weight?

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Historically there are two options.

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One is revenge.

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And so the famous an eye
for an eye a tooth for a tooth.

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If somebody hurts you,
you hurt them back.

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Now the problem with
that is that while

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sometimes it might make you feel
a little bit better to do that

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back to the other person,

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we feel our own pain far greater than
we experience another person's pain.

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So usually if somebody has injured me

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my revenge on them is probably
going to be to a greater degree

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because I really felt it.

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So that begins an escalation process

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which can lead to as we've
seen throughout the world

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so many areas of hatred,
anger, war, violence

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that grows out of this
kind of escalation.

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So there's another alternative

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and the other alternative
is the forgiveness process.

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And what that does is it sort
of dissipates that negative

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energy that those negative emotions

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and changes it around and
changes and reestablishes

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your relationship with that person.

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And I think it's within
the changing of that relationship

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that that great weight,
that great negativity

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starts to go away because
the injury now goes away

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and you understand your
relationship to that person

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no longer in that injurious perspective

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but in a new perspective
that helps to see

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you and the other person
in a much more even way,

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in a way that helps to foster
the positive emotions

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and maybe even in a way
that helps to reconnect you

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or connect you to that
person in a positive way

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under some larger notion of
the universe maybe under God

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or under all of humanity whatever
that particular person feels.