The gift in the wound

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One of the early interviews I did
was of a former gang member in L.A.

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And he talked about his son
being murdered

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and how he knew who had done it.

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He could have taken revenge,
but he chose not to

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because he knew how
pointless revenge was.

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And he talks about finding
the gift in the wound.

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That's how he expresses forgiveness,

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the gift in the wound.

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And I think this is about
meaning making.

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Meaning making doesn't mean
you make sense out of something

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for some things are senseless.

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You can't explain them.

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But meaning making means
that your story has a purpose

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and that you are able to pursue the
things that really matter to you,

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you and those things are about
creating a better world essentially.

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All the stories have this
sense of making meaning

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and about helping others
to find their own paths.

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So it's not a selfish sort of,
"I'm going to tell my story.

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Listen to me," at all.

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It's a very sort of inclusive
and engaging process.