What dialog requires to be fruitful
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- Dialog requires courage and being willing to see how I can fix my mistakes toward that person.
Résumé
Having participate in a wide number of dialog meetings, Ramez explains the key elements he found for having a fruitful dialog.
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Well I think of two things:
First, courage.
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It requires courage especially
when you're in your own tribe,
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people are not for, dialog,
for peaceful solution.
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So it requires a lot of courage
to in spite of that to do a step
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towards the others
and invite them for a dialog.
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This is the first thing.
The other thing is this:
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the dialog to be fruitful
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- we come back to this first
question we spoke about -
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for dialog to be fruitful
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you have to be ready to admit
where you have been wrong.
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You see.
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Or to listen carefully to
the other person in order to see
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how much he may be right
in what he's saying.
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So if, for instance,
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you feel that you
have been wrong 10%
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and the other person has
been wrong 90%,
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the person who is
a peace builder,
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a true peace builder, would
start by admitting that 10%.
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And by trying to rectify
you know these 10%.
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Put them right. And sometimes
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they can be portrayed just by
a simple word, you know, that:
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"I'm sorry. You're right".
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You know, in this respect
"you're right".
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And "we've done wrong,
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please forgive us".
You know, or something like that.
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Or do a step something you know
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which shows that you want to
put right this little apart.
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So this will...
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this will open the way for
the other person also to see also
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what he has been wrong
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though it's not a condition
when you do that yourself.
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You don't do it out of...
out of expecting the other
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you seek to do
what he has to do.
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But out of truth,
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you know, out of truth,
out of real true honesty.
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Well I think of two things: First, courage. It requires courage especially when you're in your own tribe, people are not for, dialog, for peaceful solution. So it requires a lot of courage to in spite of that to do a step towards the others and invite them for a dialog. This is the first thing. The other thing is this: the dialog to be fruitful - we come back to this first question we spoke about - for dialog to be fruitful you have to be ready to admit where you have been wrong. You see. Or to listen carefully to the other person in order to see how much he may be right in what he's saying. So if, for instance, you feel that you have been wrong 10% and the other person has been wrong 90%, the person who is a peace builder, a true peace builder, would start by admitting that 10%. And by trying to rectify you know these 10%. Put them right. And sometimes they can be portrayed just by a simple word, you know, that: "I'm sorry. You're right". You know, in this respect "you're right". And "we've done wrong, please forgive us". You know, or something like that. Or do a step something you know which shows that you want to put right this little apart. So this will... this will open the way for the other person also to see also what he has been wrong though it's not a condition when you do that yourself. You don't do it out of... out of expecting the other you seek to do what he has to do. But out of truth, you know, out of truth, out of real true honesty.