Forgiveness study on incest survivor
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After 30 years
of studying forgiveness
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what strikes me the most
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is how powerful the process
of forgiveness is
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for emotional healing, spiritual
healing, relational healing.
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For example, a colleague of mine
Suzanne Friedman
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at the University of Northern Iowa
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and I did a study of incest
survivors in the mid 1990s.
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Most therapeutic
sciences were telling us
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that the best kind of therapy
is to help
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maintain symptoms without
symptoms getting worse
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because there are no
psychotherapeutic techniques
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that can actually heal a woman
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who has been subjected to incest
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which is one of the most
horrendous injustices of the world
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where a father who is supposed to be honoring
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and protecting her
is taking advantage.
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We did a study with 12 women.
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All of them came to us
psychologically depressed
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and they didn't like themselves.
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Suzanne Friedman brought them
through a forgiveness process,
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one hour a week
for up to 14 months.
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Six of them, the other were in
a control group,
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and after 14 months of one
on one work with her,
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following our process of forgiveness,
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the women were depression free.
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Their depression
didn't just go down. It left.
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They also came into the study not
liking themselves for what happened.
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They ended up recovering
their self-esteem.
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And their anxiety went down.
Their hope for the future went up.
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I have been amazed at how
strong forgiveness is at targeting
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resentments and unhealthy anger
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and all the complications
that go with that
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when people have been treated
profoundly unjustly
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where they literally
can be healed from that.
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After 30 years of studying forgiveness what strikes me the most is how powerful the process of forgiveness is for emotional healing, spiritual healing, relational healing. For example, a colleague of mine Suzanne Friedman at the University of Northern Iowa and I did a study of incest survivors in the mid 1990s. Most therapeutic sciences were telling us that the best kind of therapy is to help maintain symptoms without symptoms getting worse because there are no psychotherapeutic techniques that can actually heal a woman who has been subjected to incest which is one of the most horrendous injustices of the world where a father who is supposed to be honoring and protecting her is taking advantage. We did a study with 12 women. All of them came to us psychologically depressed and they didn't like themselves. Suzanne Friedman brought them through a forgiveness process, one hour a week for up to 14 months. Six of them, the other were in a control group, and after 14 months of one on one work with her, following our process of forgiveness, the women were depression free. Their depression didn't just go down. It left. They also came into the study not liking themselves for what happened. They ended up recovering their self-esteem. And their anxiety went down. Their hope for the future went up. I have been amazed at how strong forgiveness is at targeting resentments and unhealthy anger and all the complications that go with that when people have been treated profoundly unjustly where they literally can be healed from that.