How to cure resentment

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When we have resentment,
and I'm not talking about the

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word resentment the way many
philosophers do which is

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what resentment of the short run
is a sign of self-respect.

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You can't do that to me.

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I won't stand for that.

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But then you
move on from that.

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So the short term moral
righteous indignation can

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be called resentment,
but psychologists when they use

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the word resentment they mean
deep unhealthy anger that

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abides over a long period of time.

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And when you have that
kind of resentment it's almost

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impossible to just leave that
as a void and walk away from it.

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Because you know resentment is
not a very friendly neighbor.

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Once it's inside of us
it's hard to ask it to leave.

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I have known people
who have held onto resentment

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for 40, 50, 60 years and they
would be close to dying with it

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if they didn't practice forgiveness.

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The only thing I know of on
this planet that can actually

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get rid of resentment when
we're talking this deep kind

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that psychologists talk
about is forgiveness.

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I think it's the only medicine
that can cure us

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from a resentment
that could kill us.