Standing in other’s people shoes

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When I was 15, I studied
a book at school

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for my English literature.

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It was called: "To Kill a
Mockingbird" by Harper Lee.

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And in terms of the importance
of experiencing the other

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and how to do that, I think,
Harper Lee, the author, had it right

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when she said that you need to learn

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to stand in Boo Radley's shoes.

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You have to read the book to
know what it means exactly

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to get into the shoes
of the person you fear

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or the one
you don't understand.

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And somehow standing in their experience,
walking in it.

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You could still think that they
are wrong or

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hate the way they do
things, or disagree.

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But the importance of
experiencing the other,

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means that you can change
things more effectively:

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You can work with that person;
understand her.

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I mean it's like when we talk
about things like justice

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the difference between
punitive

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and restorative justice.

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If you want to, you
could just punish the person

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and that's it !
Right or wrong.

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You know that you punished
the bad guy.

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But if you want to make sure
that this person will change by herself

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or will no longer be a threat
to other people,

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if you can clearly see that she's wrong,

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you have to walk in her shoes in order to help her

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to change or to change the overall situation.

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I know that there's sometimes
a perception of naivete

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saying that you can't hold anyone
accountable for the things

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they've done wrong
or what that you think

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they've done wrong.

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I think you can hold people
accountable and at the same

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time take an approach
which can bring a restoration

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and an improvement in the overall
situation, for that person

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and everyone involved,
rather than just this kind of

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black or white

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approach of punishment
or blame.

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And I think that's important for
the future of the human race,

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for whom we're going to
move forward,

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to build better societies.

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It's not just to be kind
or soft or lefty or all these

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labels that are sticked on people having this approach.

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It's to be constructive, to
try to improve the future

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and who we are
as human beings.

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So, that's why the experience
of the other and trying to live

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that experience is
so important.